Your life is Your Personal Journey, in which the destination is unknown.
But what is known to us, is that the way we conduct ourselves while on this journey, determines the quality of life itself. The choices we make and how we treat ourselves and others, significantly impacts our life experiences.
WHY/ Greatest benefit of becoming a Finer Person
There comes a time in every person’s life, when you begin wondering about the kind of person you are. This soul searching self evaluation, often leads to the path of self development.
By consistently working on yourself, you would be able to invite better life opportunities, situations and outcomes, leading to a more spectacular personal journey. Now, who would not want that?
Quoting Robin Sharma “A meaningful life is made up of a series of daily acts of decency and kindness, which, ironically, add up to something truly great over the course of a lifetime.”
HOW / 5 Ways to becoming a Finer Person
1. Embracing Self-Awareness
Self-Awareness is defined as the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.
It is the initial step, in creating what you want and mastering your life. How and where you decide to focus your attention, emotions, reactions, personality and behavior determine what you could achieve in life.
Self-awareness also helps you to motivate yourself and others, manage your stress better and live a more fulfilling life.
Some Examples of Self-Awareness :
- Recognizing your strengths and weaknesses.
- Thinking before speaking.
- Becoming more sensitive about your actions and the impact that those actions have, on the lives of others.
2. Choosing Optimism
Maintaining a positive mental framework, opens us up to new possibilities, promotes happiness, increases spiritual development and even lengthens life expectancy.
Researchers at Harvard University’s Lee Kum Sheung Center for Health and Happiness have found that optimistic people have a lower chance of dying prematurely from stroke, heart disease and even cancer. The study, published in the American Journal of Epidemiology, quotes “optimism plays an important role in health and longevity.”
Some Examples of Optimism :
- Practicing mindfulness.
- Indulging in positive self talk and avoiding negative self talk.
- Practicing forgiveness.
- Identifying the positive aspects of life and being grateful for them.
3. Being Open To Change
Becoming a finer person entails change and experience has taught us that change is not easy. Recall our wonder years when we lost a whole set of milk teeth? It was uncomfortable and even painful! But then experience has also shown us, that change is necessary for better things to follow.
By keeping yourself open to change, you are able to welcome opportunities and experiences.
Some Examples of Openness to Change :
- Taking up a new hobby.
- Starting a project.
- Welcoming feedback.
- Investing in continued learning.
4. Choosing The Right Company
It is for a reason that they say “Birds of a feather, flock together.”
This is because emotions are contagious in nature. Similar to positivity, negativity too is contagious.
If we choose to stay around negative people constantly, then over a period of time, we also tend to pick up those debilitating traits.
Beware – Toxic relationships can sap your energy, dampen your spirit, demean your value, discredit your imagination and even jeopardize your image.
So, choose your company wisely and invest in relationships that are mutually nurturing.
Some Examples of choosing the Right Company :
- Identifying well wishers and staying in touch with them
- Spotting manipulation and avoiding it.
- Not getting carried away by flattery.
- Staying away from those indulging in selfish behaviors and harmful actions
5. Being Kind
The fear of being taken for granted, sometimes stops us from expressing kindness freely.
It is true that there are people out there who might manipulate you, cheat you and even hurt you. But that possibility exists, even if we decide not to be kind.
Kindness benefits the giver : As per research from Emory University, when you are kind towards another person, the pleasure and reward centers in your brain light up, as though you were the recipient of the good deed. This phenomenon is termed as the “helper’s high.”
In addition to this, like most medical antidepressants, kindness is known to stimulate the production of Serotonin. This neurotransmitter helps in maintaining the levels of sleep, mood, libido, energy, appetite, and anxiety.
Embracing kindness has made me a happier person and I wish the same for you.
Some Examples of Kindness :
- Treating people who are less fortunate, in a respectable manner.
- Donating food and clothes to those in need.
- Volunteering time and skills for the benefit of others.
Remember – This is Your Personal Journey and by becoming a finer person, you come closer to fulfilling your potential in every area of your life.
This article was initially published on LinkedIn on 29/01/2017