Live your Dreams

The best way to make your dream come true is to Wake up – Paul Valery

Just yesterday I happened to meet my childhood friend who recently turned forty. As we chatted up reminiscing about old times, the topic veered to career, love, money, fame and the many dreams that we dream about.
My friend turned misty eyed as he spoke about some of the curve balls that life had thrown him. Unsure about whether to regret or be thankful for his unfulfilled dreams and in anticipation of making most of his life post forty, he said that he often wondered how to get about ensuring he realizes his much cherished bucket list.

I find a lot of my life coaching clients echoing similar doubts and fears. ‘So many dreams and so little time’ say some while most others confess ‘it all seems so clear in my head but turns so hazy when I get to defining it’.

Clarify that Dream
Psychologists have been studying the phenomenon of dreams since ages and have arrived at various theories. Conscious dreams, subconscious dreams – those we see with our eyes closed as well as open. Let us however begin by ascertaining that the kind of dreams we are relating to are ‘the ones you are willing to work towards’.

I would like to quote Henry David Thoreau’s famous words on the subject “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”
Even here there seems an assumption that you know the direction of your dreams, and that you have clearly imagined a life different from your current one. Hence clarifying your dreams is utmost essential.

How are Goals different?
A dream is a goal without legs; it is the very process of clarifying a dream, recognizing and defining it that gives your dream the essential vehicle to move forward.
The good news is that most dynamic and innovative people in any endeavor–business, science, athletics, politics or the arts are visionaries. And a vision many a times has been defined as nothing but an ‘upscale dream’.

Point to note is that a vision is somewhat abstract in nature and needs quantification to be converted into a goal (meaningful dream).
When you say ‘I want the world to be a more peaceful place’ the output is rather abstract. For giving legs to your dream/vision, you will need to clarify it and make it more tangible. ‘I want to lose 10 pounds in the next 3 months’ is more precise and tangible making it an apt example.

Four Powerful Keys To Making Your Dreams Come True

1. Believe – It is Possible!
Often people think of dreams as luxuries reserved for people who are plain lucky, privileged, rich, or well connected.
It is true that some people have more advantages than others. What takes one person five years of planning and saving could be achieved by another by simply selling a stock and making a phone call!

The point is: We are all starting from different places, for different reasons, with different levels of work required to get from A to B.

In some cases, if your dream is something you are physically incapable of doing, it may be improbable (but not impossible – we have come a long way with technology!).
There is no denying that certain dreams are more difficult to achieve than others however most of the things we dream about are normally things that we could do if we were willing to work towards it, align our choices to support it, and stay flexible in terms of fulfilling it.

You do not need to believe that it will be easy, happen quickly or even turn out exactly like you visualized it. You just need to believe in the possibility – which really means you need to believe in yourself.

2. Take Baby Steps
Working towards your dream involves aligning with the right people, disregarding discouragement from people who don’t support your growth and taking baby steps to move towards your vision.

“The right people” are those who help you, support you, encourage you, believe in you, and guide you on your way to this dream. It may include people who have done what you want to do, people who also want to do it and even people who just find it simply interesting.
You may share your enthusiasm and progress with them. They will mostly keep you excited and help you stick to your plan.

There could also be those who do not support your growth. Some may have malicious intentions; these people might ridicule your efforts and even belittle your purpose.
Be aware of the negative impact they are causing and avoid sharing your dreams with them.
Even some well-meaning people who are not able to do step one for themselves believe that they are doing you a favor by discouraging you. Politely decline that favor!

And as for taking consistent steps, they can be really tiny. Simple actions like making a call, bookmarking a site, or sending an email may not seem special but the little things do add up over time and because they are doable, they may inspire you to do more.

3. Make Choices That Support Your Actions

Most of our experiences stem from our choices. Not all of it; there are some things that we cannot control.
This does not mean that if you make all the “right” choices, everything will line up and magically work out. It is just that you have more power than you often realize and that power lies in your choices.

Whatever your dream, the first choice is to “prioritize it”. As you are able, dedicate time to it, money to it, attention to it, love to it. Give what you can, as you can, and back that giving with belief, passion, and enthusiasm.
The other side of this coin is realizing the choices that do not support your dream – when you are doing too much or pursuing other dreams that conflict.

4. Stay Flexible
Dreams are normally personal and private treasures that we are passionate about. Hence it is tempting to be rigid about a dream; when it needs to happen, how it needs to happen, and who it needs to include. But sometimes when we are too busy clinging to a specific vision, we miss an opportunity to experience it in different shades.

This is not meant to discourage you from reaching for the stars. It’s just a reminder that there are a lot more of them than you may realize at this moment – some far closer than others.
Being a singer may include a local music club and not a fan-packed stadium. Writing a book may entail self-publishing, not a six-figure advance and traveling may include teaching abroad and living on a slim budget.

It may not be the “ultimate dream”, but in fact reflections of it. In that moment when you are doing something inspired, passionate and in line with your deepest intentions, you will feel two things that you may not have realized – You will feel Alive and Proud!

Remember – To Start Living Your Dream, Stop Living IN the Dream!

Why Is Hope Considered To Be A Good Thing?


Hope is often described as a coping mechanism and it is said to foster a positive attitude that can get someone through a rough patch. Hope can also inspire change and action that creates desired situations.

Neuroscientist Tali Sharot in her book “The Science of Optimism: Why We’re Hard-Wired for Hope” explains how hope is beneficial –

“Although the belief in a better future is often an illusion, optimism has clear benefits in the present. Hope keeps our minds at ease, lowers stress, and improves physical health.
This is probably the most surprising benefit of optimism. All else being equal, optimists are healthier and live longer. It is not just that healthy people are more optimistic, but optimism can enhance health. Expecting our future to be good reduces stress and anxiety, which is good for our health.
Researchers studying heart attack patients have found that optimists were more likely than non-optimistic patients to take vitamins, eat low-fat diets, and exercise, thereby reducing their overall coronary risk. A study of cancer patients revealed that pessimistic patients under the age of 60 were more likely to die within eight months than non-pessimistic patients of the same initial health, status, and age”

I couldn’t agree more because if there is one single common belief that I see many of my Coaching clients display, it is none other than “Hope”.
The stories are different and so are the faces however a lingering thread of hope seems omnipresent. It wouldn’t be incorrect to say that often it is this delicate thread of hope that holds it all together and sees people through.

Quoting Martin Luther King seems appropriate – “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”.

7 Laws of the Universe


To create the life you truly desire, it is important to understand the laws that are said to govern the universe. Learning about the laws and how they work can make a significant difference in applying them to enhance your life.

Though the 7 natural laws are not in any particular order, we shall still begin with the Law of Attraction since it has been vastly discussed and even followed, mostly since it was mentioned in the book “The Secret”.

The Law of Vibration –

This law states that everything vibrates and nothing rests. Vibrations of the same frequency resonate with each other, so like attracts like energy. Everything is energy, including your thoughts. Consistently focusing on a particular thought or idea attracts its vibrational match.

How to apply it: Focus on what you want instead of what you do not want! 

The Law of Relativity –

According to this law, nothing is what it is until you relate it to something. Point of view is determined by what the observer is relating to. The nature, value, or quality of something can only be measured in relation to another object.

How to apply it: Practice relating your situation to something worse than yours, and you will be able to appreciate your position a bit better.

The Law of Cause and Effect – 

This law states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Every cause has an effect, and every effect has a cause. Be at cause for what you desire, and you will get the effect. All thought is creative, so be careful what you wish for… you will get it.

How to apply it: Consistently think and act on what you desire to be effective at getting it.

The Law of Polarity –

It states that everything has an opposite. Hot-Cold, Light-Dark, Up-Down, Good-Bad. In the absence of that which you are not, that which you are… is not. Polar opposites make existence possible. If what you are not did not coexist with what you are, then what you are could not be. Therefore, do not condemn or criticize what you are not or what you don’t want.

How to apply it: Look for the good in people and situations. What you focus on, you make bigger in your life.

The Law of Rhythm –

According to the Law of Rhythm, everything has a natural cycle. The tides go in and back out, night follows day, and life regenerates itself. We all have good times and bad times, but nothing stays the same. Change is constant. Knowing that “This too shall pass” is great wisdom about life’s ebb and flow.

How to apply it: When you are on a down slide, know that things will get better. Think of the good times that are coming.

The Law of Gestation –

This law states that everything takes time to manifest. All things have a beginning and grow into form as more energy is added to it. Thoughts are like seeds planted in our fertile minds that bloom into our physical experience if we have nourished them.

How to apply it: Stay focused and know that your goals will become reality when the time is right.

The Law of Transmutation –

It states that energy moves in and out of physical form. Your thoughts are creative energy. The more you focus your thinking on what you desire, the more you harness your creative power to move that energy into results in your life. The Universe organizes itself according to your thoughts.

How to apply the 7 laws to enrich your life: Focus your energy and effort, your thoughts and actions into attracting what you desire, and you shall begin attracting the physical manifestation of that energy! 

Making the Shift

The moment you change your perception, is the moment you rewrite the chemistry of your body. – Dr Bruce. H. Lipton


You could be feeling extremely low and miserable however that does not have to continue forever.
To start feeling better, you shall need to make an effort to focus on feeling better with each passing day.

◾ Start thinking positive happy thoughts and steer clear of negative self talk.

This could be a bit difficult in the beginning especially if you are going through a low phase. However, you can get past this by recognizing your “blessings and gifts”.
Everybody has something to be thankful for. Recognize that “something” and appreciate it.
Remember – By being thankful, you welcome more situations into your life to be thankful for.

◾ Avoid people around you who invest their energies towards scheming, complaining and gossiping.

Take a good look around you and identify the people who indulge in negative talk and actions. Be warned that this negativity percolates into your immediate space and conscience as well. So, it is pertinent that you either totally avoid or at least limit your time with them.

    Surround yourself with Positivity –


Read a personal development book / seek self empowering information online.
Never underestimate the power of a book or even articles that are available on the internet. These can offer some life changing insights.

Watch inspiring movies
There is a very wide spectrum of visual media available that can be very uplifting for the soul. If movies are your thing – go for it!

Stay connected to the positive people in your life
Who are the people that motivate you and mirror you positively? It could be an old friend, someone you work with, a sibling or your parent. Recognize them and invest further in those relationships.

Go outdoors more often
Whether it is a walk to the super market or a simple stroll at the park nearby, grab the opportunity that the day presents to you.

Get closer to the nature
The nature is not called “Mother Nature” without a reason. Let the sunlight flood into your life spreading it’s warmth and goodness. If your physical condition restricts your mobility, consider nurturing some indoor plants. Greenery is known to be soothing to not just the eyes but also to the spirit.

Making the shift is a process and like any process it takes time. What ensures your progress is your willingness to take the first step and then keep inching forward steadily.
This done, you will soon see how your energy levels and general wellness take an upswing.

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Balancing your Life Wheel

Achieving life balance has become a sore cliché that’s simply lost meaning.

It can be very frustrating when you want to change something and achieve that “balance” but don’t seem to know where to and how to start. This lack of control in your life and environment increasingly pushes you into a vulnerable spot, letting restlessness and uncertainty steadily seep into your space.

Assessing your Existing Situation

The vital first step on the path to achieving life balance is to understand more about the existing balance in your life. Once you figure out how smooth or wobbly your ride is, you can work towards specific actions to gain the balance that you seek.

Life Balance Wheel

This classic tool helps you look at the different dimensions of your life and assess how fulfilled you feel in each area.

When you take the time to see which areas of your life give you strength and which areas might be depleting you, it can become easier to identify a few simple steps that you can take in the next couple of days to improve one area.

What tends to happen is that when things start to improve in one dimension it usually has a ripple effect and your satisfaction in other areas begins to improve as well.

How to Use the Wheel

The Balance Wheel is a powerful tool as it gives you a visual representation of how your life currently is compared to how you would like it to be.

The 8 sections of the wheel represent balance between the crucial areas in an individual’s life

You could change these sections to those that hold greater meaning in your life.

To assess your life balance, review each section/heading on a scale of 1 – 10 (1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest).

Score yourself on from 1 to 10 on how satisfied you are with that particular aspect of your life.

1.Health and Wellbeing
3.Finances – attracting wealth
4.Relationships and family
5.Lifestyle and Fun
6.Personal Growth and development
7.Spirituality goals
8.Environment – Save the planet

Brainstorm Life Areas

Ask yourself these thought provoking questions to help you assess your situation.


◾How healthy are you?
Consider weight, level of fitness, energy levels, diet, health awareness etc.
◾Do you look after yourself?
Do you get regular exercise or stay generally active? Are you eating well? Does your diet support your wellbeing?
◾Do you spend time with uplifting and positive people?


◾Do you enjoy your work?
Are you in a job that you find fulfilling? Do you feel excited to wake up and get to work or do get that uneasy feeling that one usually gets when you don’t enjoy your job?
◾Are you achieving your career goals that you are setting for yourself?
Do you have clarity about what where you are heading to and what you want to achieve?
◾If you are not employed, are you aware about what you want to do and are taking steps to get there?


◾How is your relationship with money?
Consider income, savings, retirement, debts, and spending habits. It is not about how much you have but rather how you relate to money.
◾Do you earn enough money to enjoy the life that you seek?
Specifically evaluate your savings and investments in relation to your goals.

4.Relationships and Family

◾Are you in harmony with your relationships?
◾Are you satisfied with the relationship that you have or do not have?
◾Taking a certain important relationship of yours for reference, ask yourself where is it right now and where would you like it to be? Do you know how to close the gap and get your relationship to where you feel it ought to be?
◾Do your friends and family reach out to you for support and do you support them when they need you? And do they reach out to you when you need them?
◾Do you make time for your loved ones even when you are under work pressure?

5.Lifestyle and Fun

◾Is your lifestyle in tandem with the way you had aspired for it to be?
◾Are you able to provide the lifestyle that your family is hoping to have?
◾Does your lifestyle have room for fun and relaxation?
◾In case you are not happy with your existing lifestyle, what are the steps that you are taking or have planned to take to improve your situation?
◾How does taking those steps impact your current lifestyle – does it stress you out further or has it given you some room for relaxation?

6.Personal Growth and Development

◾Are you aware about your goals in the area of personal growth?
◾In case you have lost touch with the issue of your personal development, what could be the reason for that?
◾How do you think staying in touch with and working on your personal; growth will benefit you?
◾What exactly comes to your mind when the topic of personal growth and development arises?
◾What are your future plans in this direction? Are you satisfied with them or do they need to be re-worked?

7.Spirituality Goals

◾What does spirituality mean to you?
◾How are you staying in touch with your spiritual side?
◾Are you able to factor spirituality into your lifestyle?
◾Do you have any spirituality goals? If yes, how are you working towards them?


◾Do you find yourself wanting to do your bit for the environment?
◾Do you feel the need to participate in community or corporate campaigns for saving the environment?
◾What are the positives of contributing towards nurturing the environment? How does it affect your life and does it benefit your loved ones in any way?

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Think about your ideal level

Once you have completed scoring yourself, it’s time to consider your ideal level in each area of your life. A balanced life does not mean getting 5 in each life area; some areas need more attention and focus than others at any time and inevitably you will need to make choices and compromises, as your time and energy are not in unlimited supply!

So the question is, what would the ideal level of attention be for you in each life area?

Plot the “ideal” scores around your life wheel too. Once you have completed scoring yourself, you will have a clearer picture of where you stand.


Take Action

I recommend you to first start with celebrating your successes and the efforts that you have put along the way into achieving your personal milestones.

Next, pick up one life area at a time and think about what you could do to improve your situation in the days to come.

To begin with, consider simple actions that you could incorporate into your lifestyle

◾Calling a friend
◾Doing some online research for classes/coaching/gym/spa
◾Making some desired changes within your immediate living space such as organizing your room (or just one drawer) etc.

Remember – There is no shortcut to the world of balance but these tips and strategies can help you along. After all, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Pathway to Miracles


Miracles are a reality. People around the world are experiencing miracles every single day.

They are healed, they find love, strengthen their relationships and gain financial success!

As G. K Chesterton said “The most incredible thing about miracles is that they happen”.

While miracles do happen, the pertinent question is whether you are ready for yours?

“No matter how hard I work, I am just not able to achieve my aspirations”. This and different versions of this message is what I repeatedly hear from many of my clients during their Empowerment Coaching sessions. They tell me that they have been consistently trying hard for a break through but haven’t been able to crack the code yet.

This is a common phenomena across the globe; many people are known to steadily slog towards achieving their goals but still fail at realising their dreams. This can be extremely frustrating, especially when you grow up hearing “hard work always pays”.

What is the secret?

According to the Law of Attraction, the Universe responds to your impulses. The thoughts you think, the words you speak and your core feelings pass forth into the universe attracting exactly what you are focussing on.

This indicates that everything in your life is simply a reflection of the choices that you have made – the gifts you enjoy and the problems you endure.

Outcome –

• The more passionately you focus on that illness, unemployment, failure, financial crisis or the loss of a loved one; more intensely it consumes you!

• Concentrating on the things you don’t want only attracts more of the very same thing; things you do not want!

• If your thoughts, feelings and actions are not in alignment with your goals, your hard work however sincere and consistent could go waste!


Paving the path to “Attract, Awaken and Accept” miracles into your life

• Focus on the things that you desire; Clarify your goal – make it crystal clear!

• Avoid negative thoughts, even negative self-talk; Do not let your fears drive you, instead let your dreams and desires propel you towards your goals.

• Utilize the time delay; Re-evaluate your priorities and decide if that is what you really want.

• The dream is yours and the work needed to achieve it cannot be Outsourced; Concentrate, Practice and Persevere!

Remember – You are the architect of your own life. To transform your life you have to take responsibility.
As Osho Rajneesh said “Be realistic; plan for a miracle”.

Get a better Life, not just a better lifestyle!

The Meeting Your Miracles Coaching Program helps you get to the core of your issues – What started you on this path and how you could reverse it.
Using our “Meeting Your Miracles” tools, people discover who they are, why they carry on the way they do and how they could reclaim their power – restoring happiness, peace and balance.

Our services are available as per your convenience – face to face, on the phone and on Skype which means you can avail our services irrespective of where you are located.

e-mail: info@vishabhayee.com
website: http://www.vishabhayee.com

The Happiness Mantras


Wise people through history have realized many times over that life has a unique sense of humour.

Why else would happiness be something that almost everyone wants and covets however only few ever realize in their lifetimes. Many people chase happiness to the brink losing peace of mind, ending up fully frustrated and feeling helpless – pushing them further into the inferno of unhappiness.

To think that being unhappy at work does not translate to your personal life and vice versa is usually just a fallacy. YOU are what is common between your work life and personal life, so a lack of balance in either sphere gradually sets the ripple effect going – spreading unrest and confusion which if not addressed can result into chaos and break down.

During their Empowerment Coaching sessions, some of my clients shared with me that in the pursuit of happiness, some picked up a new hobby, others tried playing a new sport or increased their social interactions but still were not able to find the key to living a happier life.

“Why can’t I ever be really happy?” is the common message that I hear again and again.

How to find Happiness

A classic belief supported by the wisdom of centuries is that happiness is mostly achieved by those who stop pursuing it. The key word being STOP.

This may seem a bit contradictory, however as you understand some of the common beliefs that many happy people share, it will be apparent how those who don’t seek happiness are the most likely to find it!

Apply the life strategies of happy folk to welcome more happiness into your life

Foster an Attitude of Gratitude

Taking life’s gifts for granted is not uncommon; it is possible that you are taking certain aspects of your life for granted. The basic lifestyle necessities that you are enjoying such as having a comfortable shelter, decent clothes to wear and sufficient food to eat are gifts that a majority of the people on our planet can only dream of!

• People who are happy seem to be content and appreciate whatever they have. They are grateful for life’s gifts.

• To achieve a mindset where you take nothing for granted usually requires only a shift in attitude. You won’t need to change anything regarding your external circumstances.

• Remind yourself to thank the universe for the gifts that you enjoy at least once a day. You could reflect on the things that you are thankful for while falling asleep each night; regrouping your energies and preparing for a great day tomorrow.

Be Realistic about Achieving Goals

Expecting success overnight is a sure recipe for disappointment unless you have just won the lottery! Happy people are known to be pragmatic when it comes to setting and achieving their goals.

• They understand how much time and effort may be required to achieve a goal, and if they fall short, they will usually put in the necessary additional work required to reach their goal.

• People who are happy are also aware that just because they are putting in the necessary work to achieve their goal, there is no guarantee that their goal will ever be reached.
They are aware of the possibility that external factors outside of their control could easily change outcomes. Being aware of this can help adjust direction when unforeseen circumstances arise.

Consider others First

Achieving happiness can sometimes be the opposite of what you may think. You might be wondering how you could bring yourself closer towards achieving happiness if you consider others first.

• Putting other people first automatically requires you to have a more humble and appreciative outlook on life.

• Making others happy will invariably bring more happiness into your own life.

Remember – What goes around, comes around!

Begin integrating the Happiness Mantras into your daily living to find that happiness has always been just around the corner – waiting for you to discover it!

Get a better Life, not just a better lifestyle!

The Meeting Your Miracles Coaching Program helps you get to the core of your issues – What started you on this path and how you could reverse it.
Using our “Meeting Your Miracles” tools, people discover who they are, why they carry on the way they do and how they could reclaim their power – restoring happiness, peace and balance.
Our services are available as per your convenience – face to face, on the phone and on Skype which means you can avail our services irrespective of where you are located.

e-mail: info@vishabhayee.com
website: http://www.vishabhayee.com